Over 35 years of counselling individuals and couples I have learned a great deal. This site presents just some of what my patients have taught me.
I am often asked whether the type of relationship makes any difference to our approach. In my experience all relationships seem to follow similar rules. It is only the labels that differ – “partnerships”; “marriage”; “civil partnership”; “gay”; “co-habiting” – and so on. Of course, they all come with slightly different ground rules, implications and meanings. But the principles remain the same. After all, why shouldn’t they be?
Throughout my career I have kept a collection (now in 42 volumes) of thoughts, ideas, anecdotes and stories – lessons taught to me by those with whom I have worked. I was always afraid of forgetting the wisdom of others – especially since they had often acquired it the hard way – and its impact upon me. So I transcribed those lessons – and I realised that I didn’t want to waste this hard-won collection of the experiences and thoughts of others.
This site is, therefore, as much for my benefit as it is for yours. I hope that you will find it as useful as I have.